I mean from inside out, to a totally different kind of person? In the post before this I talked about four people I knew and how they changed and all but now thinking back about it, they changed their life styles and choices (some did, and some didn't) but they didn't actually change themselves per say.
So it is possible? A complete transformation?
Which raises another question, what makes 'evil' people 'evil' ? Is it because they experienced a rough upbringing? Or did they have it in them all along?
Think of an abusive person, who is just always angry, and hits his loved ones, can he ever change? Will he ever regret it? If he was abused as a child, and he saw how it affected his loved ones, why would he do it to someone else?
I mean I saw this other programme (its was a medical type thing) and this guy became a nurse, when he was asked why, he replied that he saw how his dad hurt his mother and him, and he didn't want to end up like him, and instead he wanted to help other women, and hence he became a nurse in a free female clinic.
So two guys, experienced same abusive childhood, one ends up hitting his family, and the other ends up becoming a nurse helping the society.
So why the difference? Is it because the abusive guy always had it in him? That little spark of "evil"?
I know I trailed slightly off the topic but I feel that it relates in a sense, because we are so different. Everyone of us, our gene pool is amazingly different (identical twins excluded) some of us can change easily, though and through, and others, we can't, it's not that we don't want too. It's just that we can't. Or maybe we can but it'll take forever to change us.
So back the question, can people really change?
they can i guess life changes ppl rude bad gd nice sweet bas its mainly gd to bad i know like gd ppl do gd things but no1 respects her so she'd turn evil so ppl would fear her and respect her more
ReplyDeleteyeah thats true, i mean it depends on how strong the person is, and if they can be easily influenced. with that they r more likely to change their personalities because of a situation if they are weak willed.
ReplyDeletehmmmmmmmmmmmmmm this is toughy
ReplyDeletei think it all depends on the person and they're will power...
if a person truly wants to change and believes he/she needs the change they will change no matter what...
i believe ppl do change but unfortunately they dont always change to the better...LEL2ASAF EL SHADEEEEEEEEED
and regarding the abusive guys ...one of them is being the bigger person hence turning into a nurse but the other one is a negative guy and wants others to feel his pain...
kil wa7id ow throofa...its really hard to actually know why they turn out this way because we dont know how they feel especially when they go through such horrible situations...i just hope less ppl have such experiences with time
this is a great topic, its a thinker....
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yeah i know its a diffcult question and the answer isn't easy,
ReplyDeleteand its sad but i feel that in most cases it easier for people to change for the worse..
oh n the conclusion of the episode that made me write this post was that, most people dont change , but their are a few who can (the criminal gangster guy ended up truly changing)
thnx for your thoughts
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I think the abusive guy who hits his family might just not know any other way of expressing his feelings, thoughts, or anger... where as the other one has learned to control it.
ReplyDeleteI think to a certain extent if a person is really willing to change then he or she can.
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ReplyDeleteand back to your comment, yeah change is possible but you would need so much will power
hope u enjoying ur holiday, which im sure u r ;)
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